Maybe it is just the age I am at, or maybe it is an unspoken law of nature. Either way, have you ever noticed that the easiest guys to attract are the ones you want nothing to do with. Or at least nothing romantic. To further explore this idea, we will look at the history of creepy guys hitting on girls who just are not interested, specifically me.
We will start in sixth grade. The locker next to mine belonged to a physically- and mentally-unattractive boy who was interested solely in music, dance, and theater, but is not gay. Let's just call him D. Now, D insisted on following me everywhere around the school. He would sit behind the row of lockers and jump out to scare me when I got to my locker. He would do the same thing after lunch, hiding by the door at the top of the stairs. There was simply no way to get him to get him to leave me alone.
Moving on to my freshman year at high school. My family had just moved, so I didn't really know very many people. On person, a friend I had known in fourth grade but grew apart from, decided to hook me up with this "really cute guy." For the purpose of anonymity, we will call him D2. Anyway, D2 was not attractive. At all. And I mean inside and out. He had none of the characteristics I see in myself or like in other people. Unfortunately, he saw something in me, and I could not shake him for the longest time.
Fast forward a few years, to the summer after graduation. My older sister and I worked at the same place, until she moved. While she was working there, but before I was old enough to start working there, she dated a guy, B, for a while. Things with B were not serious for her, but he felt otherwise. Anyway, after she moved, B and I started having more shifts together. He seemed nice enough, and one of my friends got along with him really well, so the three of us hung out a few times outside work. For a while it was fine, he was cool to hang out with and we had a lot of the same interests. After a while, though, things started getting a little more awkward. Eventually one night when he was drunk and I was sober, he asked me out. I told him, very politely, that I was not comfortable dating anyone who had gone out with one of my friends, let alone my sister. I also kindly told him that I just didn't feel that way about him. But after that, he kept going down that road, trying to get me to go out with him even though I persistently told him that I did not feel that way. Ever since I started dating one of his friend's roommate, we have not hung out. I certainly do not regret it because the guy I am dating (B's friend's roommate) is wonderful and definitely makes up for the loss of B's friendship. Besides, the more I got to know B, the more I realized what a jerk he is when he does not get his way. So no regrets, but it sure makes work awkward.
Long stories short, why is it that people are so attracted to those who have no interest ? And on another note, why is it so hard to attract those who we are most interested in?